Every woman I have met has their signature item. The one piece of clothing, jewelry, or item that makes them, them. For some it’s their favorite lipstick, or a sentimental ring. For me it’s my necklace.
The necklace I wear everyday tends to attract a little bit of attention. It isn’t a big statement necklace; it’s actually rather small. You wouldn’t notice it unless you heard me walk down a hallway or were standing in front of me. It also isn’t the normal necklace you would find in the jewelry section in Target.
I call it my charm necklace, and the charms I keep on it represent specific things that are important to me but also have a purpose to get me through the day. For the most part, it’s to keep my hands busy when I get anxious to keep me from biting my nails, but there are other purposes.
To get to know me a little better, here are the five items on my charm necklace.
This pendant is the base of my necklace, and is probably the item that grabs attention. It is one of the most recognizable symbols when it comes to people talking about witches, wiccans and pagans. For me it is a symbol of protection, and a reminder of my belief; much like how everyone here wears crosses.
The Rose Quartz Pendant
I have always been pulled towards quartz stones, and loved collecting them when I was little. A few years ago, I came across a rose quartz pendant and began to wear it until it broke. This pendant is my second one. Rose quartz crystals are said to help with depression and the heart chakra. For me, I have noticed that my depression episodes aren’t as bad if I wear it daily. Usually if I don’t wear it for a long period of time, and I do have an episode, it becomes one of my more difficult ones.
The J with a Heart Charm
This was one of the first presents that Sunshine’s family gave to me. I use it to represent both of us, and my love for him. Along with my engagement ring, it reminds me how much he loves me and that no matter what he is with me through every struggle.
The Bronze Besom
Coming out of the broom closet to my mom was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do. I was genuinely scared that she was going to blow it off as a phase but her response surprised me. A few weeks later, I received a small besom pendant in the mail from her. It was her way of showing me that she accepted me for who I am and what I believe in. It reminds me that I shouldn’t have to hide and that my journey is important.
Originally the ring on my necklace was my engagement ring, because it is actually the wrong size, so I wouldn’t lose it. Now, I have my Mom’s high school class ring. This ring reminds me of where I am from (I went to the same high school) and how I got to where I am.
The little reminders these charms bring to me, help me so much to get me through my day. If my day starts to go wrong, I use it charms to help me ground and me a sort of mindfulness exercise. I have come to a point where I don’t leave the house without this around my neck and often feel naked without it. To bring an extra magickal touch, I charge these charms to protect me when I am not at home.
Do you have a signature item that you always have with you?